Talks, Talks, & More Talks

I will start with a picture and end with a picture - - I can't grab your attention if I don't have pictures because DUH who wants to read a blog post sans pix??? Not I said the bride......

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Communication – Respect – Honesty – Trust – Laughter….These are some key elements that make my relationship with Goose go round.   Each of these brings up great conversation, important conversation. Conversation that when its happening and if we aren’t on the same page, holy moly put the batteries in the smoke detectors because this house is going up in flames!!!!

Goose has a tendency to call me Dr when I get all ‘key element-ill’ on him.  I love to talk. I love deep conversation. I love trying to rationalize why we think the way we think, why we act the way we act, and why everyone’s point-of-views are what they are. Now don’t get me wrong – Often times I don’t agree nor do understand people’s point-of-views and/or actions, but that will not stop me from trying.  You see there is no right or wrong. The way I view things or do things isn’t right or wrong, it’s my way – which is the best way for me. That does not mean it’s the best way for you nor does it mean it’s the right way. Like I said it’s my way – in the end often times it’s a mistake I am apologizing for and explaining, lol!

My point is (believe it or not I do have one) - - There are key topics of conversation that Goose and I must have before marriage (children - apparently I told him I want 6, LMAO.)  For some reason these conversations are more challenging for me than discussing key elements of a relationship.  I guess because I don’t know exactly what my thoughts/answers are – can I learn as I go, NO!!!   

What are we going to do with our money? How many kids are we gonna have? What holidays are we spending with my parents and what are we spending with your parents?  What are our household chores (there is no way I am scrubbing toilets, PHAT CHANCE?) Can we live with each others pet peeves?  How will we handle fights?  Where do we see ourselves in 30-40 years: are the visions compatible?

So there you have it, blah blah blah blah blah - - - Were or are these key topics a challenge for you and your partner to discuss?  And do we need to have everything decided and solved (if we disagree) before getting married?